I have seen judgment affect the church in irreversibly damaging ways. I’m not just talking about weekly attendance numbers; I’m referring also to its affect on the person him/herself. I’m passionate about this subject because I have seen it affect me, and everyone I know.
Problems with Judgmental Christians:
You exalt yourself
I have seen time and time again (myself included) Christians say things along the lines of “I can’t believe they had sex,” “Sally got drunk, what an idiot,” “How desperate is Amy, did you see what she wore last night,” “How embarrassing, John struggles with porn.” By gossiping and showing a lack of understanding or care you are basically saying “I’m better then that,” and truth is YOU ARE NOT. We are all sinful and when we talk like that we lose sight of our own sin and we highlight someone else’s.
You say Jesus isn’t enough
The more we talk about other people’s sins as worse then ours the louder we are saying “Jesus’s death on the cross wasn’t enough to save them.” An example of this is when you hear someone say they will only date someone who’s never had sex before. Yes, it’s an absolutely beautiful thing to want, but if we make that an ultimatum we are saying Jesus dying on the cross wasn’t enough to cover THAT sin. It’s a beautiful story when someone overcomes sin, and Jesus says we are wiped clean by his blood.
You lose Perspective
If we haven’t experienced something it’s nearly impossible to understand what it means to go through it. Don’t assume you know anything about what it’s like to have your dad walk out on your family, to never fit in, or to be in an abusive relationship, if you have never been in those situations before. James 1:19 “Let every person be quick to listen, and slow to speak.” Focus on the person not the sin. Take time to build a caring relationship first, this will help eliminate the temptation to judge.
You become a danger zone
Are you more comfortable going to your non-Christian friends when you’re struggling with something ‘embarrassing’ or hard? This is because Christian groups have a high tendency to create danger zones rather then safe zones! We all love those people that we know we can go to with anything and they will never judge us. Always be ready to give hard and honest advice, but after you’ve listened to them and know you have their best interest in hand.
Contrary to popular belief the closer we get to God the less judgmental we become. John 8:7 “Let the non sinner throw the first stone.” In John 8 all of the religious people wanted to stone a woman caught in adultery, but Jesus said NO, for only those who have never sinned can judge, and one by one they dropped their stones and left. Drop your stone and look at everyone as God’s children, not for the sin they are in.
I’m not saying that sin is ok but I’m saying don’t gossip about it, don’t talk behind people’s back, don’t assume, instead go to that person if it’s appropriate, and talk to them about how you can help, and pray for them!
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