The Judgmental Christian


  I have seen judgment affect the church in irreversibly damaging ways. I’m not just talking about weekly attendance numbers; I’m referring also to its affect on the person him/herself. I’m passionate about this subject because I have seen it affect me, and everyone I know. Problems with Judgmental Christians:

You exalt yourself

I have seen time and time again (myself included) Christians say things along the lines of “I can’t believe they had sex,” “Sally got drunk, what an idiot,” “How desperate is Amy, did you see what she wore last night,” “How embarrassing, John struggles with porn.” By gossiping and showing a lack of understanding or care you are basically saying “I’m better then that,” and truth is YOU ARE NOT. We are all sinful and when we talk like that we lose sight of our own sin and we highlight someone else’s.

You say Jesus isn’t enough

The more we talk about other people’s sins as worse then ours the louder we are saying “Jesus’s death on the cross wasn’t enough to save them.” An example of this is when you hear someone say they will only date someone who’s never had sex before. Yes, it’s an absolutely beautiful thing to want, but if we make that an ultimatum we are saying Jesus dying on the cross wasn’t enough to cover THAT sin. It’s a beautiful story when someone overcomes sin, and Jesus says we are wiped clean by his blood.

You lose Perspective

If we haven’t experienced something it’s nearly impossible to understand what it means to go through it. Don’t assume you know anything about what it’s like to have your dad walk out on your family, to never fit in, or to be in an abusive relationship, if you have never been in those situations before. James 1:19 “Let every person be quick to listen, and slow to speak.” Focus on the person not the sin.  Take time to build a caring relationship first, this will help eliminate the temptation to judge.

You become a danger zone

Are you more comfortable going to your non-Christian friends when you’re struggling with something ‘embarrassing’ or hard? This is because Christian groups have a high tendency to create danger zones rather then safe zones! We all love those people that we know we can go to with anything and they will never judge us.  Always be ready to give hard and honest advice, but after you’ve listened to them and know you have their best interest in hand. Contrary to popular belief the closer we get to God the less judgmental we become. John 8:7 “Let the non sinner throw the first stone.” In John 8 all of the religious people wanted to stone a woman caught in adultery, but Jesus said NO, for only those who have never sinned can judge, and one by one they dropped their stones and left. Drop your stone and look at everyone as God’s children, not for the sin they are in. I’m not saying that sin is ok but I’m saying don’t gossip about it, don’t talk behind people’s back, don’t assume, instead go to that person if it’s appropriate, and talk to them about how you can help, and pray for them!

Comment your thoughts please!! <3

 

11 comments


  • TheLicenseToChill

    Your post really hit home! Living in the city, its common for people to be so judge-y. Thats why I always believe its best to look at the good attributes of an individual instead of highlighting their faults. Doesn’t mean you should be naive to their sins but don’t let that make you treat them any less than how you would like to be treated.


  • Joelle

    Thanks Emily for your comment! I agree, we don’t need to judge to help someone, leave the judging up to a perfect God, not imperfect people!


  • Joelle

    Totally agree! It’s so sad when people think you should treat someone differently depending on what they are struggling with, it just makes them feel like an outcast when we all sin! There should be no Taboo subjects when it comes to sharing struggles!


  • Emily

    Your post is great, I agree 110% with what you are saying. We shouldn’t judge at all. It’s all in God’s hands. Thank you for sharing, I appreciate it,


  • Ashley

    I loved this …
    This post is exactly WHAT WE NEED TO HEAR IN A CHURCH SERVICE …

    The difference between ‘Judging in Hate’ and ‘Judging in Love, Respect and Honesty’ …

    1 Corinthians 2:15
    15 But he that is spiritual judgeth all things, yet he himself is judged by no man.

    This means, that while yes, Christian’s are mean’t to JUDGE everything according to whether it’s morally ‘Good or Bad’, it doesn’t mean we are to ‘Judge in Hate’, ‘Judge in Disrespect’, or ‘Judging in Hypocrisy’ …
    Towards another who has sinned differently, sinned on something we haven’t, or sinned in general. Because ‘ultimately we have all Sinned and ’Will Mostly Likely Sin Again’ …

    I.e Mathew 7 -> “Judge Not” …
    OR

    Mathew 7:1-5 KJV !!
    7 Judge not, that ye be not judged.
    2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.
    3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
    4 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye?
    5 Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.

    Mathew, essentially talks about not judging in Hypocrisy, basically it’s you condoning your own Sin, but then attacking in hate, when someone else DOES SIN …

    YES WE ARE TO JUDGE, but only when the time is RIGHT and THE OTHER PERSON
    IS OPEN FOR ‘your opinion or suggestion, and mostly prayer and support’ …

    Judging in “Love” verses Judging in “Hate” ..
    Christians ARE MEAN’T TO JUDGE…
    But Their is a ‘Right Way’ and ‘Wrong Way’ … :) :) :)


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